In my last post I addressed domestic violence and at the time had no idea I would have the experience I had shortly after.
I met a young woman several years ago that had everything going for her. She was about 17 years old, straight “A” student, very active in her school – drama, sports, student council, etc. She was also an aspiring artist, with a lot of potential; she was slated to attend one of the top art schools in the country.
She was caring and considerate of others. Simply put, she was beautiful from the inside out. Yes, she was physically attractive, but more than anything she was beautiful because of her spirit. Her smile was infectious because it reflected happiness. She had such warmth about her; it was almost as if she glowed. When she walked into a room everything felt …..well….better.
I recently saw this young woman, after about 8 years and I was stunned - I did not recognize her at all. What I saw was a woman withdrawn, and hidden behind an ill chosen wig – literally hiding her face. She walked with heavy steps, clearly being led by a heavy heart. I asked who she was and to my total shock, it was the bright young woman I knew. I found out that she had been married and had gone through a very abusive relationship. I was told she was on the mend and moving forward.
I had many thoughts and feelings run through me, seemingly all at once – sympathy for the loss of who she was, hurt for the shell of a person I saw before me, but most of all anger. Anger for the fact that someone had broken her spirit and no one has the right to do that. I prayed for her and came to realize that what was important was that she was out of the relationship and getting her life back.
Please understand that your spirit is your strength, it is what makes you who you are. Treasure it, love it and protect it. Allow no one to break it. Should you ever look in the mirror and not recognize who you see, question why. Who and what have you allowed into your life that has caused you to be unrecognizable…even unto yourself?
If this story resonates with you, please reach out and seek help. If you are in or know someone in an abusive situation – get out…help them out. Seek information here: The National Domestic Hotline - http://www.thehotline.org/ - 1-800-799-7233.
Have a great week, and remember…
Always do you,